I just started out stripping 3 days ago and when i ask any customers for a lap dance they always say they don’t have any money, but i see them walk off and get 600$ dances from other girls.
i’m a very attractive girl and i have a good body, can your give me tips on how to talk these men into getting a lap dance from me?
ps. girls usually get most of their money from lap dances.
Yes, my dear. I am quite aware of the cash flow model of the average strip club, but it was very sweet of you to point out what you learned in your first few hours on the job. (The dollar sign goes in front of the number, by the way.)Now, as for your problem. You need to shift your thinking a bit. Being a very attractive girl and having a great body is all it takes to get male attention outside the strip club walls, but once you’re inside the rules are temporarily suspended.
Gender roles are reversed. Women become the aggressors while men sit back and soak up female attention. It’s what they’re really paying for, and it’s all bullshit. You know it. They know it. The trick is to get them to temporarily forget that it’s all a lie. That’s how you make the big bucks.
They don’t pay you because they find you attractive. They pay you because you find them attractive. It’s called hustling, and it’s a hell of a lot harder than just standing around looking pretty.
Unless you want more than the occasional free drink and a few dollar bills at the pole, I suggest you start letting those men know how irresistibly sexy they are.
Good luck meaning it.
(Also, I highly recommend you follow both The Dame and Kat’s Blog. The Dame is a pole dancing bad ass who gives great advice, and Kat is a smirking genius whose blog is basically the Huffington Post of strip club culture.)
I’m not going to lie. Yes, I’m partially reblogging this because of the flattering summation of my blog. I do have a few things to add though. Usually I don’t bother with trying to help new dancers, because I look at them like they are baby sea turtles and the strip club is Galapagos. They may be cute, and it may be tempting to lift them up and carry them to the sea, but nature must be allowed to take its course. If they die before they reach the water, so be it.
Yes, you have to be an aggressor in the sense that you have to get off your butt and approach customers. You don’t have to be too aggressive, per say, you just have to take initiative. Why do men go to the strip club? They want to have fun and forget about their problems: attention and escapism. Steer clear of conversation topics that kill the boner. They don’t want to hear about how your parole officer is being a total bitch this week. Don’t ask whether they’re married (they all are). Do laugh at their jokes, or at how unfunny their jokes are. Don’t spend more than a few songs talking to a guy who won’t buy a dance. Those custies are time wasters.
You have something going for you that no other girl at the club does; it is your first week. Tell this to every customer that you talk to. Let it be your fourth day ever for the next month. Ask them if they would like to buy a dance to “help break you in.” It’s gross, but they’ll eat it up. Also, get over to the Hustle Hut if you don’t want to die (figuratively) stripping during a recession.